What is trust? And can you ever truly trust anyone here on earth?
Guam is a great place to grow up it may seem to some, it's tropical, beautiful and warm place to live. And the people are very friendly. Sounds like a haven for a little kid right?!
My first house was fun, we lived there for two years, and we had the greatest back yard every, trees galore. And I had some good friends, we lived in more of a neighborhood where you played with your neighbors. And my church wasn't bad, I had the best sunday school teacher ever. Mrs. Mac :)
But I started realizing something, it started with my first best friend who is three days older then me, i'd have friends, they'd be there for a few years and then they'd leave...... Duh, military, but I think I've said more good byes at airports then I've said hello's. And even non-military ppl never stayed long. I guess they had reasons to go back to the states.
So after a while I tried to stop caring. Sure be their friend but don't get attached cause they'll leave soon anyway, so that set me up for attachment and trust issues. I didn't get super close to my siblings either because of various reasons not to be discussed, but it just didn't work.
I pretended to be a happy kid, and I pulled it of cause I'm not a bad actor. The result? People figured I was okay usually and didn't bother ever asking me how I was, so I also learned not to ever tell people my problems cause they didn't care. And I had a lot of them :( Also people had a way of hurting me, some not purposely, some not caring, and some just cause it was me. So I also added to my other insecurities had self esteem issues. I wasn't worth anyones time to care about.
The first person I started to trust was my best friend 'Joy'. Because she moved here and stayed here for what seemed like would be forever. So I got close to her, and I'll never ever regret it, she's like my sister. But a couple years ago she left. It was a surprise to everyone in the church. Her dad announced they were open to moving if the Lord led, but I knew that she would be. And I was right it only took a few more months. I guess it was good I broke down when I first heard the news cause then I was able to be strong for her and not be there. But it hurt and still does cause I miss her.
Next on my list is my other best friend 'Beth' she was only here three years, but she quickly became my best friend. But like everyone else she had to move. At least thanks to facebook I'm still in touch with them, and I'm very thankful. I was even able to visit Joy. So it's not that I don't trust them, but they still aren't here.
So to me the thought always comes 'Why trust?'. When a: they don't care. b: they do but they still end up leaving or c: they hurt me.
But somehow I always end up trusting someone no matter how hard I try NOT to and I end up getting hurt... lame life right? I know.
I guess the other thing I keep doing is I'll start to trust a friend, and I'll stop trusting God. Which is the DUMBEST thing you can ever do. Cause you take that trust from God and place it on a person, and God is going to take away that person so you'll focus on Him again. And you think after all the friendships that have been ruined I'd have learned this, but no. Cause I'm a retard. Maybe this time I'll learn.
This time maybe I'll learn because I'm risking losing the best friend I've ever had. One thing I've left out, yes I've had several friends, but usually I'm the better friend. I help them with their problems and keep my own to myself. But this friend, made sure I was okay before dumping on me. Checked up on me and was there for me. For the last 13 months. And almost everyday for the last 4. And now, it's not so much me as the friend, but I feel that this is the consequence of taking my focus off of God and getting closer to the friend and starting to neglect God. :(
(hey if you know who you are, and you read this, would you remember this, and maybe give me a chance to get back to God and then talk to me again? Cause in this case it's my fault)
Trust the point of this... well I guess all I can say is FIRST trust God and have your closest relationship with Him. Then get close to friends, but remember that you have to keep God first in your life. He deserves and demands it, He IS a jealous God. And don't ever put your dependance on a person, because even if they don't want to they will let you down in some way.
I think I'm kind of rambling but I needed to get this out... plus not many ppl read this blog anyway, so np :D