Today I read a really depressing blog. It was dedicated to men being more masculine. Which, don't get me wrong, I am all for. More and more men today are becoming effeminate and we need more men to be men.
But the writers of this blog do not know what it means to be a man. The first post I read was about how woman with short hair are damaged. NO EXCEPTIONS. If you have short hair and you are a woman, you are damaged... Um. No. He opens the article with "No woman in all of human history has ever looked better with short hair than she would with a head full of healthy locks." This is not a fact as he goes on to claim, that is an opinion. (I hope his mother never gets the urge to cut her hair!)
Granted, longer hair has always been associated with woman, but I don't see him rebuking men who have long hair. He mentions one girl, who he accosted, about her short hair and she ended up telling him that she had cut her hair off because of a break up and less men hit on her with shorter hair. So, yes, some woman cut their hair off for personal reasons; but some cut their hair because it's hot and they're too busy to maintain long hair. Having long healthy hair can take a lot of maintenance, depending on your hair type, and some woman do not have the time for it. There are single mothers who work multiple jobs and when they are home they want to spend time with their children and not spend an hour doing their hair.
There are so many reasons for woman having shorter hair:
- making a statement
- cancer survivor
- too busy to maintain long hair
- was in an accident
- lives in a hot climate and shorter hair is practical
- and many many more. To list all the reasons why a woman would have shorter hair would be impossible. But to look at a woman with shorter hair and judge her and call her damaged is wrong. Women with long hair have the exact same issues that women with short hair deal with.
To continue with this judgmental and demeaning trend there was another post on this blog about how woman who have piercings and tattoos are broken. The author's five reasons were:
1. They are sluts
2. They have no foresight
3. They are selfish
4. They are boring
5. They are mentally ill
Again, these men are bigoted. To take all the women in the world with multiple piercings and at least one tattoo and put them into this box is wrong. Let us break this down by point:
1. They are sluts: Well from reading these posts, the only thing that I have learned is that the authors are the male equivalents of a slut. Why isn't there a term for men who casually sleep around? (All of the examples for these articles are women that the authors have slept with.) It seems to me that he is the slut; and to judge all the women in the world but the few that he has deemed worthy of manhood is not an accurate way to measure woman. He has all these judgements biased by the women he has slept with, well here is a novel idea STOP SLEEPING AROUND. Maybe if he worked more on meeting the right woman for him, he would stop generalizing all women by the ones he has slept with. Since when did being masculine mean seeing women only as live sex toys and should they have tattoos and maybe not be as good as he hoped, that gives the man leave to judge her? Where is the respect for her? Real men have respect for women, regardless of their physical appearance.
2. They have no foresight. Well, the only foresight the women this man tears apart lack is the fact they wasted their time on him.
3. They are selfish. Holds no water. Again, I don't see him saying that men who get tattoos are selfish. Just another double standard.
4. They are boring. So that young woman who got a tattoo to remember her father who passed away is boring? Maybe he should ask her why she got her tattoo(s) and what they mean to her. Bet that would be an interesting story. True, some people get tattoos on a whim, or because they were drunk, but many people get them for a reason; to honor loved ones, or to commemorate a life event.
5. They are mentally ill. Again, if men can have piercings or tattoos and not be mentally ill, don't see how he gets off saying women are mentally ill for having a tattoo.
Being a man does not mean you have the right to tear women down. I am not a feminist, but I will also not be boxed up by bigoted men who only see my appearance. I know that men have to deal with feminist extremists who don't wanna stop at equality and must have exclusivity; but, that doesn't justify these mens opinions. Men need to respect women, even if they have short hair, piercings and tattoos. Judging them and saying that they are mentally ill does not define your manliness it just proves that you do not understand what it means to be man. These articles, that are supposed to encourage men to have masculinity, are nothing more than rants against the women these men have slept with. You wan to be a man? Stop sleeping around, get to know the women in your life, stop judging them by your bigoted ideals, and RESPECT them. You feel they don't respect you? Guess what? They do not respect you because you do not deserve it.
As a side note, some of the most masculine men out there are homosexual men. Why? Because they do not see women as sex objects, but as people.
So men? Learn to respect the women in your life. After all you wouldn't be here without your mothers.
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